All the D/s (Domination/submission) relationships I know of, and have read about, have rules and rituals that the submissive must follow. I am sure that those not involved in D/s must think that such regimentation would stifle any relationship and make it unbearable on the submissive. I am sure that many men and women who are just discovering their submissiv...
THE MAN BEHIND THE CURTAIN Remember that scene in the "The Wizard of Oz" movie, when the Wizard is revealed as a man working special effects from behind a curtain? Remember the Wizard, frantically flipping levers and speaking into a microphone exhorts Dorothy and her friends to "Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain"? And, of course, they all immed...
Dominology 103 talked about the idea that you have to be expressing your wishes clearly as a dominant. In a way you might call limits the matter of gracefully accepting those wishes once given. Many people are reminded of a roller coaster when watching an experienced dominant work. They tend to start out slow and build a momentum. There is an illusion at pl...
~~~~~~ Note: this is my first essay submitted to the site, and I am curious to see the thoughts it generates, so please take a moment and tell me what you think. ~~~~~ My Daily Reminder that a commitment to the D/s lifestyle must be taken seriously. In my research I came across some writings that helped me understand many things about the life I lead. Tha...
Th' expense of spirit in a waste of shame Is lust in action, and till action, lust Is perjured, murd'rous, bloody full of blame, William Shakespeare, Sonnet 129 Are some of us born more naked than others? Brought into the world ready to take in every criticism, suggestion, or unkind remark as gospel, increasing the shame and humiliation delivere...
For over two years now, the bisexual Haitian-American male known as Samuel Xavier had been pleading with his tall, curvy and sexy African-American dominatrix, Kia Holbrook, also known as Mistress Kia or simply Lady K, to turn him into a submissive Sissy slut like he was born to. For the dominant Black woman, doing something this drastic to a Black man wasn't...
I read a great post today on the following 360 page the title of which was "So you want to be a slave: The realities" by miria hunter. It is a great article and I enjoyed reading it very much. It reference one of My favorite topics, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs which was a very nice debate a long time ago for a few of us on Literotica one night. I did a few...
"Rivers belong where they can ramble; eagles belong where they can fly . . . I'm not a river or a giant bird that soars to the sea, and if I'm never tied to anything, I'll never be free . . . " -"Corner of the Sky" from the Musical Pippin There are rafts of quotations out there about freedom; the importance...
Really, this is one of those situations that I've heard of so many times that it actually contributed to my impetus to start writing about all of this. I recently received a mail from a man in a long term relationship requesting advice. He indicates that while this relationship of his is healthy and solid, it's also exclusively vanilla, and he wishes to expl...
[This guide discusses bodily functions in a tasteful manner but those offended by them should read no further.] For Jen and Megs, who do understand Many dominants do not employ toilet restriction as a disciplinary tool but those who do recognize its effectiveness in changing behavior of submissives for the better. In some circles it may even be derided as...