A few months ago I met for lunch with a friend of mine at a nice local restaurant. The reason for the meeting was to have an exchange of ideas with a trusted fellow Dominant in the area. The lunch was good, but the conversation was better, and it did something all good conversations should do; caused Me to do a lot of soul searching afterwards. The topic of...
Don't take yourself too seriously. I know it's always tempting to model our behavior on the action hero of our choice, but don't do it. You do not need to be cool, dark, broody, or to communicate in grunts. Be yourself. Laugh, smile, have fun, say stupid things sometimes. Be human and authentic. Do have a sense of humor. Crack jokes, be witty or funny, defu...
Let's begin with the idea that I am very submissive in nature, but my job (college professor) often calls for a façade of dominance. I found over the years that most people never pick up on the real me even though I often behave in an accommodating and submissive way. Over the years, I have had a few highly submissive interactions with people. Some of these...
Sarah sent me a nice email thanking me for a great class. At the end she asked if her and her boyfriend could take me out for a drink the next week to say thank you. I wanted to reply immediately but held off hitting reply. I figured I would enjoy the thought of her a bit more. Sarah was just about the best looking woman I had ever met. She was about 5'5",...
When training a new/newer submissive Momma has always been mindful to the particular needs of that person. From what level of voice direction they need, pressure of the collar, or even the speed at which their buttocks join with the whip. Once I am able to see what kind of submissive type I am working with I know how best to help them. POSITIVE REINFORCEMEN...
Before I met Master, my life involved very few connections or interactions with other people -- I lived almost completely in my head. I attended college and earned a degree; I worked hard at my chosen profession. I made and kept a small group of very close friends. I even maintained close family ties. But my true self was kept secret -- even from the public,...
My name is Nicole Boerman, I am a submissive and a unicorn to my Master and Mistress. I am these things willingly, freely and happily. I serve my doms because it gives me pleasure to do so. Their pleasure is my pleasure. I have given myself to them and in taking me they have given themselves to me. My Mistress, Precious who's 25 is the wife and slave of...
Background: The next three stories involve my only long-term on-line subject who I have named Nancy. This subject passed all of the tests I described in story two ("A Few Good Subs"), but before we were able to arrange an in-person session, he was offered a job in a town a great distance away, precluding any in-person meets. We agreed to continue training...
The more things change, the more they stay the same. It's always been the case in BDSM circles that those who lean towards submissive tendencies have been the ones who really put in the effort of creating and holding together the communities. Dominants tend to be more aloof. It's a truism, sure, and of course there are exceptions. All you need to do in order...
In more 30 years as a practicing (non-professional) Dominant, I've discussed this subject a number of times, with both submissives and Dominants. Some of them had been "lifestyle" for many years, some for only year or two, and others were beginners. The topic was: What is the difference between spankings (or flogging, or caning, etc.) of a "sensual" nature a...